“just” a mother?
It’s been said that “Motherhood is the toughest job you’ll ever love.”
I might add “…and occasionally lament” while crying for fear that you might be failing. And yet the truth remains that motherhood—in spite of its messy glory—is the most important job in the world.
Genesis 3:16 tells us that, as a result of the fall, women bring forth children “in pain and sorrow.” If that isn’t the most honest description of motherhood, I don’t know what is.
There most certainly is pain from that first contraction until the last teenage eye roll. But this I know for certain: It is pain with a purpose.
Purpose
God was doing more than doling out punishment in the garden—He was setting the stage for redemption. He decreed that the offspring of the woman would crush the serpent’s head. Not only in the ultimate promise of Jesus Christ defeating sin and death (that is the GREAT purpose) but in a secondary sense, motherhood itself transforms us.
Think of it. Growing a tiny human inside your body for nine months, giving up your waistline, sleep, and any sense of normal control over your bladder. Then comes the indescribable physical ordeal of labor—which I can only assume is God’s way of proving that women are as tough as any guy out there. But wait—there’s more!
After childbirth comes breastfeeding, sleep deprivation, diaper blowouts, and the unceasing demands of being on call 24/7. Does it get easier over time? Reality check: It doesn’t. The challenges just change and the stages of growth are different.
There will be temper tantrums, scraped knees, fears and tears, homework battles, teenage rebellion. Through it all you’ll be pouring out your heart, soul, and unceasing prayers for the stamina and wisdom it takes to raise a respectful, kind, God-fearing, productive human being.
So please, I never want to hear another woman say, “I’m just a stay-at-home mom.” We’ve let the world convince us that being a mom is somehow “less than.”
Divine Calling
Motherhood isn’t “just” anything. It’s a divine calling. You are partnering with God in helping to shape the next generation. You are the CEO of a small, highly influential company called FAMILY. You are truthfully molding the very future of humanity.
While motherhood doesn’t come with a paycheck or a 401(k), it comes with dividends that pay out for eternity. You’re not simply raising kids; you’re raising image-bearers of God, future world-changers, and (even quite possibly) the person who will discover a cure for cancer or write the next great American novel. Every sleepless night, every tearful prayer over your children—it all matters.
The Bible tells us that women, “will be saved through childbearing, if they continue in faith, love, and holiness, with self-control” (1 Timothy 2:15). This verse isn’t saying that women earn salvation by having babies (thank goodness)! It means that the process of motherhood sanctifies us.
It shapes us into people who are more patient, more selfless, and more reliant on God. And one day, someday, we can redeem the beautiful image of Eve in all her pre-fall splendor.
One more thing. Please, I insist. Don’t forget the joy.
Joy
Yes, there is joy! It may be hidden in a pile of laundry or submerged in the chaos of a toddler meltdown, but it is there. In the sound of your baby’s first laugh. In the way your child reaches for you when they are scared. It’s in the pleasure you feel when they stand up for what’s right or accomplish what they’ve worked so hard for.
Motherhood is a bittersweet symphony of pain and joy. Sacrifice and redemption. When all is said and done, you’re not “just” raising children—you are fulfilling a sacred calling that echoes the story of redemption itself.
So, mothers, the next time someone asks what you do? Just give them a knowing smile and say, “I’m in the business of shaping the future.”
14 comments
Pam Miller | May 6, 2025
Cathe —- thank you!! I am a Grammy to 12, mother to 4 grown humans.
I did stay home to raise my kiddos and there were days that, well, I didn’t want to!!! But I knew it was what the Lord would have me do and I am so thankful. I am forwarding this wisdom and encouragement to my daughter and daughter in love. TY
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Susan Tangness | May 6, 2025
Thank you for this!
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Liz | May 6, 2025
Thank you so much for this timely message I feel our LORD wants to confirm for so many.
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Christy Harker | May 6, 2025
Amen!!!
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Marie B | May 6, 2025
Cathy, I just loved this blog and so perfect for Mother's Day. I will be sharing it with my daughter, a Mom of two young ones---Motherhood indeed is a divine calling. Best to you and Happy "early" Mother's Day. By the way, did you know "MOM" turned upside down, spells "WOW"...it's no wonder....LOL!
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Charm Reed | May 6, 2025
I was in the Army when I got pregnant with our first son. I knew that I would have to get out of the service. I wanted him to know who his mother was/is.
I don’t regret it. He is now a retired Soldier. His brother, our last child, is a retired Marine. Motherhood is one of challenging than anything else that I have ever experienced (along with being married. I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
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Yvonne | May 6, 2025
Thank you Cathe.
Happy Mothers Day!🌹
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Linda | May 6, 2025
Cathie,
Thank you that’s was beautiful. I have a wonderful life now but I must say the highlight of my life was raising my 3 wonderful kids. I was a stay at home mom in the 80’s - 90’s and got a lot of “ what do you do all day?” Wouldn’t change a thing.
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Nancy | May 6, 2025
Just want to say thank you for being you and listening to God, I appreciate you with all my love 🥰
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Shelley | May 7, 2025
Wonderful. Thanks Cathe.
Happy Mother's Day and God Bless.
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Liane | May 7, 2025
Simply beautiful. Thank you! I will be sharing with my daughters and son!
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Lisa McMeekin | May 7, 2025
I absolutely loved it & immediately sent it to my daughter who has had the undeniable privilege of working (and working hard) being a stay at home mom for the last 7 yrs, raising the last of her 3 sons.
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Esther M Rojas | May 7, 2025
So powerful. May i include us grandmothers as well.
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Lisa Ann Vafiades | May 8, 2025
I just want to tell you that I look forward to reading your devotionals. This one is exceptional. Thank you, Cathe.
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